More than 40 million people search for love on online dating sites like Match.com and eHarmony, according to Match.com, and one-in-five of these online dating hopefuls say they need help creating their profile, according to a recent Pew Research study. Which makes sense—it can be hard to know what to write when you aren’t even sure what women actually want. Men’s Health suggests you make your profile tactful, show women you were raised right and above all, mention you are a chivalrous individual. Demystifying dating is easy when you get back to basics.
Get ready, because you’re bringing chivalry back to the modern world by knowing why women want chivalry and how you can give it to them.
Why Women Want It
Being chivalrous includes all the obvious gestures like opening doors, pulling out chairs and possibly even laying down your jacket over a puddle (OK, maybe not), but it’s so much more than that. Don’t treat her like she’s weak or can’t do something on her own. Instead, show her you want to take care of her because you’re thinking of her feelings. It’s more about being kind and thoughtful than being sexist or treating her as unequal. Women want to date men who aren’t playing them or just out for sex; they want to feel special and that you truly care.
How You Can Give It To Them
1. Pick up the Phone
No matter what men tell you, there is no woman on earth who wants to be asked out via text or email. News flash: they also don’t want you to wait three days to call them after a date. Show you’re a gentleman by calling her with an invitation — and do so whenever you want, not by some pre-determined social norm. Believe us, this small gesture will instantly show her you’re not like the rest.
2. Be Sincere
Chivalry also equals sincerity. After the date, send a simple, but tasteful flower arrangement to her office as a thank you for her company. As the relationship progresses, do something like wash her car or pick up groceries when you know she’s stressed or downtrodden. Remember, showing you care about what’s going on in her life is the most important part.
3. Be Nice to Others
Being a chivalrous guy is something you’re going to have to practice daily and incorporate into your lifestyle if you want to really impress women. Be courteous to women of all ages, and just be a nice person in general. Treat servers with respect, give someone at the gym some encouragement and let it go when you get cut off on the freeway. Keeping a chivalrous mindset 24/7 will not only drastically improve your chances of finding a smoking-hot love connection, but they’ll also make you a better, happier person overall.
4. Really Buy In
If you don’t truly believe men should be chivalrous and you’re just doing it to get laid, you may want to re-think your approach. According to dating expert Christie Hartman, chivalry is something a man should choose to be because he wants to. She continues that men should be chivalrous because it feels good to do things for others. “Will it get the girl? Not always. But the pleasure of chivalry comes from how it makes you feel, not what it can get you. And if a woman doesn’t appreciate it? I say, find one who does,” says Hartman. And we agree, 100 percent.