10 Tips to Dating a Married Woman


If you find the idea of dating a married woman enticing, you are not alone. Many men are attracted to older woman and married woman. The experience of married woman is compelling to men as they try to unravel the mystery behind these awe-inspiring feminine creatures. Dating a married woman seems to have its advantages in sorts, as compared to dating a young girl who is just beginning to touch on life experiences. A married woman is going to know exactly what she wants from life, and will exercise the option to do so.

Perhaps you find your desires toying with the idea of asking a married woman out. Here are our best 10 tips to dating a married woman.

Dating a Married Woman

  1. Seize Every Opportunity to Make a Good Impression in Person:

Whether you meet this amazing woman at a sport event, in a bar, or even online, always put your best side forward. This means being able to hold a decent conversation with a healthy amount of genuine humor thrown in.  Don’t force humor; wait until a natural moment to spontaneously show your funny side. This gives you an opportunity to flirt this way. Women love a witty man who is a bit standoffish.

Keep a good ear for listening. Try to get to know about her lifestyle, her needs, and desires; there is good insight here for why she is looking for something beyond her husband.  On the other hand, keep your own life a mystery, women are intrigued by this. Be confident, not cocky.

Phone calls and text messages are acceptable in the beginning, but don’t try to build the relationship like this. Phones are only tools to create a time and place to spend more time together.

About compliments: Never try to make an insincere compliment as women seem to have a sixth sense and will notice the play right away.

  1. Become Her Support System and Trusted Confidante:

A married woman generally gets into an extra-marital affair when she is not happy with her life in some unconscious way.  Typically, there is a void inside her, a need not being met. This could be anything from boredom to lack of sex to some inner conflict she is facing.

Try to become her support and stand by her side when she wants you.  Build comfort and trust. Be a genuine friend. If she knows she can rely on you, this makes her feel safe and secure, especially when her own world may be in turmoil. If you truly care about her, she needs feel comfortable in your company.  Keep criticism, arguments, judgments and any other negative talk to yourself.

And always, keep flirting with her; this is the feel-good zone.

  1. Go Slowly:

Many women are not ready to throw in the white towel for their marriage. In fact, chances are they still love their husband but maybe not ‘be in love with him’.  There may be a borderline divorce happening, or the husband has neglected his own vows and she just may be lost. In other cases, there are marriages which are defined as ‘open’, leaving the partners to explore outside the marriage. When a married woman agrees to seeing you, this should probably come up at some point in later conversations.

This will take time. You will have to approach the married woman scenario at a snail’s pace. Develop the relationship slowly so she feels she is doing the right thing. If this is a sure love match, time will tell. Unless she has specifically plucked you out of a crowd to go for a one-night sex fling, then there is hope for more.  Going slowly means to spend time with her in normal settings like a coffee shop or a drink at a pub in the evening.

  1. Never Befriend Her Husband:

This is a recipe for disaster. When all is said and done, the love triangle will surface eventually. Stay away from the woman whom husband is a friend of yours.

The Downside: Dealing with the Husband’s Wrath

Let’s imagine you get caught having this illegitimate affair, you are now at the receiving end of the husband’s wrath.  Chances are the man will come to you and have a least one show down with you. Nothing is worse to a man’s ego than his wife sleeping with someone else. Find a mature and graceful way to excuse yourself from the triangle, and definitely don’t throw the blame on her, she is facing the wrath at home.

  1. Know What She Expects:

Know that a married woman is dating you to fulfill her own expectations and needs which are not being met by her husband.  Make it a mission to get to know who she is and what she is looking for.  Then do your best to meet these expectations.  Maybe she doesn’t even know what she is looking for, and you are there to show her a new world, or a new way of being.

  1. Do Not Do Anything That Can Be Misconstrued in Public:

Although a married woman’s interest in an outside relationship may be obvious, she may not wish to complicate her existing life. She already has a commitment, family, and husband. What you do in public must seem friendly to an outsider looking in, but not a dive more than this. She is going to be very full of self-preservation in regards to her existing life. Always listen to her body language for her level of comfortableness in public areas.

  1. Let Her Be the One to Initiate:

One of the most important factors to consider when choosing a married woman is to convince her that she is interested in you. Show confidence and remain charismatic. Keep your conversation simple, but direct the conversation to what she and you have in common. This goes back to the time old saying “chase her, until she catches you”.

The first date is the getting-to-know-her moments, so don’t force the kiss or the sex card. Have patience. Wait for her to initiate on her own comfort level. However, if she is interested in pulling these cards herself, and the environment is right, don’t hold back. Woman love daring men. Don’t be nervous.

  1. Set Boundaries:

One of the grandest gestures about dating a married woman is that there are no commitments.  Set the boundaries from the beginning. Identify your lines in the sand. She will not want to compromise her family for this relationship, and maybe neither of you can ever get serious in the relationship. Perhaps you will want to set parameters with the right to stop the affair without any explanation.  This is protection for both of you and it is the mature thing to do before engaging in the relationship. She will welcome the lack of commitment as a safe way to protect your marriage.

  1. Dress like a Gentleman, Speak like a Gentleman:

Make an effort to keep a sense of style regarding certain places and occasion. Leave the cowboy or biker at home. Your attire should be attractive, subtle, and match the occasion. The same goes for grooming. Women pay attention to grooming, and are easily repulsed by unpleasant smells. When you open the conversation, try to avoid talking about yourself. Try to get to know her nature.

  1. Don’t Take Rejection Personally:

Some married women are solid in their marriage; they take their vows dead serious. Respect her boundaries and move on. Opening an unwanted door with an uninterested married woman doesn’t have to be the end-all. It is not a knife on your ego, but only an unavailable woman.

Here is an honest opinion from a married woman who dates married men and why:

“Married woman here with 3 married lovers and it is a mutually beneficial situation for all. I disclose that I am not exclusive with any of them and I get to date and play and have a very fulfilling life. It is not the typical situation for all but it works well for me. The wives of these men fail them and they get to dote on me and from an intimacy place…100% all the time…and the SEX is great too. Single guys are too much work and are too demanding so if you learn anything from this…compliment, be genuine, don’t be cheap, have fun, be discreet, and play safe.“  –m.k.

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